No friends!! Am I Loser?

Dear ppl,

I have no idea what to do. I HAVE NO FRIENDS! I wanna have a gym buddy,coffee buddy.. and the most important to have somebody by my side (someone I can talk to anytime,have a girls night out/in,share my sad and happy moments) I don't know how to make friends. I tried,but they all seemed to have their own friends or life. I live w/my BF,he's great. When he goes out, I mostly stay in because his friends and I share different intrests. Plus I wanna have my own "set" of friends. *I have BFF,she lives quite far from me,she's in university there. Its almost impossible to get hold of her,she's always busy w/school and stuff. I see her once or twice a month. I love 'er to death(so does she),but we're just too far apart from each other. Any ideas where and how to start?

Would be very greatful.

THANK YOU!

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I know exactly how you feel! My only and best friend is my fiance. Pretty much around the time I met him, I lost all of my friends, and never gained any new ones or got the old ones back. My old friends and I are just at different points in our lives ... (they are having children), while my fiance and I are trying to create a stable life for ourselves. My fiance lost his friends about a year and a half after i lost all mine, and since then we have been flying solo. He has one friend, that moved to Chicago, and will be coming back soon. They always let me hang out with them, and make me feel welcome, but I know how you feel. I would love to just have one girl-friend that understands what I am going through and that can relate on my more "girly" issues. It hasn't happened for me, and I really struggle in finding ways to meet new people. As I get more use to it being us two, it doesn't bother me that much. I would rather have one true friend then a bunch of backstabbing friends any day. I figure I just haven't met the girl that will be my friend, and my day will come. It's a struggle, but with a good man at your side you can pull through anything with a smile!

Sorry for the rambling, just wanted you to know that there are other women out there that are in the same boat! :)

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go to craigslist.org and make friends
well no not necessarily ur family is ur freidsn and yeah mayb ur a loser but get confidence and become a winner
I would like to have the same kind of friends like you to. But where i live you can't really trust anybody.. and people around here are so silly and aren't on my level of maturity
Get out, try something new, talk to people, start a conversation with some one who looks friendly.

GOOD LUCK
usually you make friends in the work place unless you're pulling graveyard shift. either start going out to clubs and stuff and just find people who share the same interests. there is no real way to say "you make a friend by..." sorry
gosh, try some volenteer work, get a job in retail.join a girls bowling league.get involved in some kind of comunity work.Take a craft class or art class.look to what your intrests are and seek that out.
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
Do what I do and pay people to be you lackeys. Then you can boss them around and if they get out of hand you can fire them.
talk to people. Do yoga. It's very relaxing. Just do something you likethat involves other people. Your not a loser, just get a life outside of your boyfriend
when you are trying to make friends dont be too needy.

try to be nice but not too nice, and espe cially when you try to make friends make sure they dont use you.

that happened to me and after quite a while i made a bunch of great friends that i can tell my secrets to and such.

show people that you are an amazing person and try to be confident. if you ask me, it helps!!!

good luck, make a right choice of friends. pick the loyal and nice ones!
Go play an MMORPG. Massivley multiplayer online role playing game. Trust me. Buy world of warcraft, know how many people play it? Its just crazy. Make friends there. What is the difference between real life and friends in the game? You explore with them, quest and have fun. No downside, give it a go
NO, you're not a loser, what about women you work with, etc.

My friends has a love triangle problem?

my friend mani loves a girl name ritu( true love) for 3 yeasrs now and another girl manu is mani's friend . she is her true friend and helped her in times of good and bad....

well now she has started loving mani and she doesnt propose him but she loves him...

in the high school she on purpose touches mani in front of ritu and now ritu has dont the breakup...

mani's problem is that he wants ritu and he also cant stop manu to talk becoz they r good friends before and he also dont wanna breakup with manu and he want her to be just a friend with her but ritu also doesnt like it.....

ritu wants that mani should not talk with her...

plzzzzzz give me a solution that mani makes up with ritu and he also keeps a good friendship with manu and he doesnt lie to ritu about their relationship with manu....

ritu is also jealoused of manu ....

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how bout a name change for one, just kidding tell her to sit down both and discuss how she feels

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Well i have been in this situation before. You can say that i was in manu's place. As for my situation my best friend which happens to be in mani's place became my bf. Before he bacame my bf, he had a gf too. They were also together for 3 years but she was staying about 2 hours journey from where he is staying. Well actually he is staying quite near to her place but he is studying far away from her. They use to communicate through phone calls and sms. I use to get a bit jealous but i tried to control my feelings.

His gf had this problem, she seldom calls him and so does he but they loved each other very much. I was always there for me. I helped him in everything. He always tells me his problems. Well you can say that im always by his side when he needs or when he doesn't needs me.

He knew i loved him so much but he couldn't do anything cause he loves his gf so much and he knows that she loves him too. I always tell him that i love him so much and i cant live without him but he will always explain to me that he cant do anything and wants me to carry on with life, as in get a bf. But i cant cause i love him so much. I waited for him for complete 1 year. we had our semester break.

During the break i became very close to his best buddy %26amp; his buddy confessed to me. I didn't know what to say cause i still love my best friend so much. All my friends told me to move on. So i thought about it.

After 2 weeks, my best friend and i came back to campus. On the way back to campus, i was on the phone with his best friend. He knew that i was talking to his best friend cause i told him during the break that i might be giving his best friend a shot. He sounded kinda weird when i told him all that but i just didn't bother much.

Right after we reached campus, he asked me a question. He asked me whether am i serious with his friend. I straight looked him in the eye %26amp; told him that you are the one i love and i will always love you. I also told him that im gonna fulfill his wish. He always wanted me to have a bf so now im gona have one. He didn't say a word. He looked at me %26amp; his eyes was filled with tears. I kept on asking whats wrong but he refuse to say a word.

After a couple of hours he burst out in tears %26amp; told me that he loves me so much.I had no words. I asked him how about your gf. He said he already thought %26amp; he feels he need a person who is next to him %26amp; can take care of him, not a girl which he can just say that she is my gf. And as for his best friend i told him the whole truth %26amp; he took it very well.

Now im with my best friend but now he is not only my best friend but my bf too.

Mani has to know what he wants in life. Make sure its not to late. In life only very rare people get 2nd chances.

If my friends ask out a guy I like in front of his friends and he says....what does this mean?

Okay, like I notice that he keeps staring at me like in math class, and will try and keep his eyes looking at mine. Well, in the hallway I was walking and he yells nose job (its my new nickname at school) and I turn around and he comes up and walks beside me. And he says, I just wanted to see if it was you. And I'm like okay...And I tell him about my other nicknames, and after a while he goes off to talk to his friends. Well, at the homecoming game (football game) I had my friends go up to him and see if he would go out with me. (they asked my first and last name) and he said who? So they came to me, I said ask nose job. They go and ask him, and he goes sorry, no. (but I later found out that his friend was next to him) so did he say no cuz his friend was there or does he really not like, me or what? i'm so confused!!!! Please help, as I will see him tomorrow at school. (oh, and on time his friends said to me, why don't you go sit by him) Please help!!

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Either he's not interested in you, or he is, but he's not mature enough to put that interest ahead of his relationships with his friends, ie. he's choosing his friends over you. The only thing that argues against this is that he stares at you in math class.

And look if I were you I'd try to get a different nickname. "Nose Job" isn't too bad, except that it can be easilly converted to other less complimentary phrases that end in "job."

My boy friend & I had sex/not intercourse/with another couple/new friends, how can we go back to

My boyfriend and I had erotic involvement with another couple we met on line. They are very nice people and we became friends with them, not good friends, in fact all together we have only seen them in person about 5 times in 7 months, written several emails. Only had sexual experiance with them one time. I was ok with it, and even got way into it, at the time, and my boyfriend was very considerate and kind and was not at all with the woman, only briefly with the man, we spent most of the time with each other, and them with each other. I don't want to do that again. Once was enough and his fantasy was fulfilled. He still wants to be friends with this couple and I don't understand how we can, knowing that my boyfriend would do it again if I would and the couple would too, and it is me that is holding everyone back. He thinks we should write to them and ask if they are ok with just being friends. We fought. In the am he said he loved me and wants me to be happy. What is up?

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sorry, but i dont' think you can just be friends with the couple, it's best to end communication with them all together. and tell your partner that you don't want to include anymore people in your relationship, if that is what you want, however, if you do want that just not with this couple, you two need to set specific ground rules and guidelines to follow so you or him won't get hurt and you two won't "step outta line".

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YALL ARE SICK!!!! That's so NASTY
YOU MUST ALL BE ON THE SAME PAGE OR IT WILL NOT WORK. THESE MATTERS SHOULD HAVE BEEN DISCUSSED BEFOREHAND.
break up with him and become friends again ! if doesn't work move on!
Break up and walk away, you just open Pandora's box and it will never be closed.

Your man was briefly with the other man?! and it was his idea to meet with them?! You've been set up!

Walk away, walk away, and don't look back....its over.
that is really messed up and now your relationship is only gonna fall apart.
You tried it, and you don't like it. If he is not cool with that then you are going to have lots of problems. If he is fighting about it that means that he is going to end up doing it again without you.

Sorry but if he is that into it that he is gonna fight about it that doesn't give me much hope that he will just quit.

Friends or More???

So I have this guy friend, who I met about 2 months ago, and we've become really fast friends. We have the strangest conversations, but its like one of those things only we could ever follow. He's there for me when I'm mad, and hugs me often (or rather I hug him, but he hugs back). He's kind of a nerd (but then he's a cool nerd!!!), so he's not really straight up with he's feelings, so if he did like me, he wouldnt have said anything, probobly in fear of rejection.

He defends me when I get into arguements with my other guy friends, even if they're jokingly. But then Im not sure of these are signs he likes me as a person, or as a girl. He's nice to all of his female friends similarly , so Im not sure if Im over-reacting or not.

And I have no way of knowning from his friends, beacuse we all hang out in the same "clique", so if he did like me, he wouldnt tell anyone.

and I would normally tell him I like him, but Im dont wanna ruin our friendship... help?

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asking him about it won't ruin your friendship...

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It might.....................but if you love him then give it a shot
if you have a true friendship then telling him how you feel shouldnt ruin it.
Well then like flirt back in some kind of a way...give him a signal, without saying it. Sounds to me like he may like you, but dont push it too far as to ruin your friendship. Start with something subtle, and see if he gets it.
On the weekend go hangout with him ask him to do something and pay real close attention to how he looks at you and things like that.. im sure he does like you but just doesnt know how to tell you like you said about the rejection thing.. has he had a girlfriend before?
well i know wat ur talking about same thing with me u just have to follow ur heart with this type of stuff but yes he likes u think about it this stuff happens all the times a girl has a best guy friend in then in the end the find out that they love each other but theres a change u could mess up the relationship in yes it well change it well get stonger but have faith in it cuz when it happen to me i messed it up i felt like i hes was better my friend the my boyfriend u kno they way u can talk to him about ne thing it changed for me so be careful cuz now hes not my friend or ne thing i lost him i wish i could go back he was the bes t guy for me

Do you believe that friends should always stand up for friends when one is getting mistreated?

My ex boyfriend is really terrible to me--saying he still loves me and then basically getting another girlfriend, trying to get our mutual friends to hate me, telling my parents lies about me, and using me all the time. All of my friends hate him so badly for what he has done to me.

But I have this one best friend that doesn't believe that she should hate someone just because I do. She is (fairly) friendly to him and speaks to him if they see each other in public.

I don't think that friends should fight other friends' battles, but I do believe that when someone is awful to a friend, the loyal thing to do would be to at least not speak to that person.

It really hurts my feelings, and I have told her many times but she says she doesn't want to burn her bridges just because he's mean to me.

I don't expect her to chew him out or talk badly about him, but do you think it is wrong to expect her to not speak to him?

Do you think she's an unloyal friend or am I just being selfis

Do you believe that friends should always stand up for friends when one is getting mistreated?myspace commentes

You are right to a point but don't push it. Besides the time will come when she is in your position and then turn about is fair play isn't it.

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sometimes, depends on situation
she should not hate hin but ya i agree she shouldent talk to him
Yes, she is a disloyal friend. A real friend would stand up for you and support you.

Dump her. She is probably after him.
She's just making up her own mind. That's okay, I think. Maybe someone has lied to her before and she likes to give the benefit of the doubt.

It shouldn't make any difference to you if people still talk to him. If he's a jerk, he will suffer the consequences in the end anyway.
wow she should totally kick his butt for u thats wat friends r for. mayb she wants to b more than friends w/ him ooo girl u betta which out!
Yes, but cautiously. You never know the whole story. You may get drawn into a codependant situation and become the bad guy.

Your friend may just be trying to be pragmatic. There are always two sides to everything.
A real friend should always be loyal to you, this can be done without taking sides.
I do believe it is important to stick up for your friends, or at least let that other person know that you disagree with them about their friend and why. That way, maybe the other (bad) person may get to see that your not so bad after all. I mean, if your friend respects you that much. . then maybe they would too?
well...if you're friends..she shoud speak up for you

whether it is just a heads up like hey what are you doing to my friend? why do you treat her like that?

or if shes with you and he does that..she should say something

you're right..she shouldn't fight your battles for you..but she should say something

you're friends
you ex boy friend EX is the main part sounds like he is trying to hurt you, your friend does not have to do anything you do everybody is different accept that accept the differences it is what makes people interesting, you are being selfish yes a little bit but allow yourself your feelings and allow your friend theirs
No offence to you, but you are being kind of selfish. You kind of expect your friends to be followers, and your the leader. But this girl, she chooses not to be a follower. I mean she should be that friendly with him but when shes talking to him, maybe she trying to help your relationship. Who knows. But all I know is you are being partially selfish and partially tooo expectant.
he is jealous ..tell him that if he can forgive u ...then u can find it in u toappologize 2 him...he will deny it at first but tell him straight up that if it was meant 2 b then it will happen, but if yall are hateing each other then it will just make it worse
dude... YOU CANT NOT CONTROL HER FEELINGS SO STOP TRYING.

do you think your god or something? ITS CALLED FREE WILL.

ya, she should back you up... that does not include HATING someone just for you

HATE is a strong word, if you really hate someone, it means you want them to suffer, die, go to hell... etc... NO HUMAN BEING DESERVES THAT.

so no, IT IS NOT WRONG FOR YOUR FRIEND TO HAVE HER OWN MIND AND NOT BE YOUR LITTLE ***** AND LISTEN TO EVERYTHING YOU TELL HER.
First this is your battle; secondly she needs to come to her own conclusion about your ex. In a perfect world that would be ideal for your friend to be mad just because you were mad. But she needs to come to her own conclusion and you still need to be her friend and long as she is still acting like your friend
I think your friend isn't as good of a friend as you think but at the same time it isn't her problem. Although if you were my friend then I would feel it is my responsibility to stand up for you. I believe that friends should stick together ragardless of the situation. I've had friends that I new were in the wrong but still backed them up because they are my friend.
your freind is right sorry.... hey my wife loves people i hate....i dont judge her because of that .. every body is there own person.....im sorry just being honest......... are you jelouse of your freind because of this?/
Not speaking to someone on behalf of someone is not the same thing as standing up for someone.

It's a grey area. You're ex was awful, but its hard to hate someone when you don't know what it feels like.

I would expect your friend to think what he did was awful, and at least be somewhat cold to him knowing that he did all those things. It's weird that she's totally fine talking to him and being nice to him knowing that.
Yeah, sometimes. It depends.
of course your friend should stand up for you, but it doesn't help to say you hate him. (a bit of advice) do let things offend you and don't take anything personally because you don't have any control over anyone and if he's to upset to admit that you guys breaking up hurt him and he's being mean that's his fault. if it gets really bad just ask your friends for advice on how to deal with it not asking them to hate someone
i'm the friend she's talking about, so watch it!

My closest friend is the girlfriend of one of my other friends. Do I need to "break up" wi

We're both in our middle 20's. This isn't the ? that "I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend". I love her as a friend, but I am not in love with her. I had a falling out with him - we're still friends, but now we're just not as close. Her and I have gotten closer since then, to the point where she is now my closest friend. We get along so well, that it is starting to be a little weird around our other friends when we all hang out. Her and I have talked about it, and we decided it wasn't inappropriate, but maybe we're too close to the forest to see the trees, or however that goes. I don't want to get her in trouble. I don't want to lose her friendship either. Should I sorta break up with her, explaining that I need to distance myself from the situation? Your opinions and insights would be appreciated! Thanks!

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No dont lose her as a friend. Its hard to make real friends, if you have someone who you get along with that well then just stay friends. There isnt any harm to know whats appropriate and whats not in your friendship. And maybe dont do anything to provoke her relationship, but dont worry about it. Keep your friend.

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no dont break up
No don't "break up" with her, but I do think you should both take a step back. Especially if you value her boyfriend's friendship at all.

If they've been together a while, or are pretty serious you should probably have respect for their relationship and befriend them as a couple more then singling out one friend more then the other.