Friends Ununited! Moving into the "friend zone" without passing go and collecting 锟?00...?

Recently I've discovered that, with a lot of, if not all of my female friends (who, a lot of them I do really like), keep describing me as "a really good friend" or similar. This is fairly cool, but my problem is that I fear that I am just becoming a potential pal to every female I talk to. I'd obviously often prefer more!

The problem is confounded by my overhearing a chat tonight along the lines of "[I'm] a really good friend to them, but *they* couldn't ever go out with [me]." where the second person in this conversation agrees... long story short, I can only guess that this is how I'm pretty much globally seen!

So, what can I do to still come across as friendly, but not so much as "only a friend"- In short, not close myself off to anything more than a "mate"!

This is having a knock-on effect on my confidence. I don't consider myself ugly, but that's how I feel sometimes. Am I just being "too nice"? "too subtle"? Doesn't help that I'm painfully shy around anyone attractive!

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This is a great situation for you.

You're being view as honest and trustworthy, not a player, therefore you're "safe" to introduce to their friends.

Obviously, you're yet to meet someone that swept you off your feet to the point that you've thrown caution to the wind and tried to jump her, (that's good, women generally don't like to be jumped, unless they initiate the jumping)

At some point, you'll meet someone you ARE interested in, and won't have any issues making it clear you want to be more than friends.

Enjoy

Friends Ununited! Moving into the "friend zone" without passing go and collecting 锟?00...?myspace.com picture myspace.comYou're probably right- I guess when the right person shows up I'll come out of my shell some. I couldn't pick a best answer myself- Maybe the right one is a mixture of them all? I do appreciate all your answers. Puts perspective on things. :o) I'd give you all 10 points if I knew how to! Report It


wow, i just asked the same question, but from a girls point of view.

well, my personal guess would be youre probably putting yourself out there too much. stay nice, a bit subtle, and always leave them wanting more. sorry im not of much help, but good luck anyways.
Yeah its probably you being too shy and subtle if you like a girl ask her out within a reasonable period of time otherwise ou fall into that friend category and its a pain to get out of. Show a little more confidence and view all those female friends as a blessing they can tell any girl you like what a great guy you and when stuck give you advice.
when you first meet someone you really like, you must display that you are sexually attracted to them. this can be done in a variety of ways

1. make extended eye contact

2. give them a compliment about their body (NOT about their clothes of anything else)

3. make a dirty joke

personally, i think you should use either option number one or number two. number two is the most effective because it subconsciously says to her that you were looking at their body and find them physically attractive.
I have the same problem, myself. For me personally, I would like to be friends first and then transition into a relationship. So no guy to me is ever just a friend...the friend zone and the boyfriend zone are very closely related - being a "really good friend" would mean to me that you would also be a "really good boyfriend."
You sound like me; my 3 closest friends are girls, they have repeatedly refered to me and I quote ''The perfect guy'', not to mention that I was in friend-zone for 6 1/2 years (Not complaing[Technically for the best as we were 9]) The difference; after the 16 months it took to overcome my shyness I am now dating the one I had a huge crush on. WOO-HOO FOR ME!