Sunday, November 29, 2009

My best friends have rejected me?

me and my friends used to hang out in a group of 5 but now 2 of them have made new friends who are also my friends but now they are all becoming best friends and the rest of us are being rejected. i dont mind them havinng other friends but im just hurt that i was so quickly rejected and that their new friends do not make any effort to get to know the rest of us and our est friends do not ever let us get to know them. its rubbish because things arent like they were before and ive been ditched for someone whos never been there for either of them



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They're probably just wa*nkers anyway. Don't sweat it! Chin up!



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Find new friends.
thats life ...shiit happens
try to bring them back, maybe they must have started to get bored with ya,
then thernot ur friends
That's life, things don't always work out they way you want.



Were you trying as hard as you could to keep the friendship together?
time will work it out. If they drop you out like that, they may not be the kind of mates you want. It happened to me years ago, I had a circle of friends that I thought was unbreakable but some started work, went to uni, and I thought the magic had been lost. But years later I'm still best mates with a couple of them and see the others every once in a while.
now you know how IMPORTANT have a friend.



not only gf or wife/husband
I've just gone through something very similar myself. There were 3 of us who were together all of the time, helping each other through all the ups and downs. At times just 2 of us would spend time together, and that was fine. However, 3 weeks ago I was hospitalised due to a burn on my face, and 1 of the other 2 girls has not been in touch with me since. My other friend was working in another city for a week, but she rang me every day to see how I was. The other has now said it was up to me to contact her, and she and the other girl have been hanging out every single day, and I feel like I've been excluded from the group for no apparent reason.



I am going to talk to them when I feel up to it. This is my plan, maybe it'll help you too:



Do not contact them unless they contact you first.



If they do contact you and want to meet up, don't do it on their terms only. See if they are flexible to meet on your terms.



Don't be fake. If you're annoyed let them know.



When you do meet let them know how you're feeling and why. By putting the ball in their court you'll soon discover if they are real friends, or just acquaintances.



Focus on your other friends and don't judge yourself based on their betrayal. There are so many people out there who will value you and appreciate your friendship, unlike these people who appear to be users.



Good luck with it.



xxx
you do not have to push too hard,such is life.



You have to sometimes let go what you hold so tight



If it is meant to be yours it will surely come back to you.



I would advice you involve yourself in other recreational activities



that would keep your mind and soul busy and before you know it you would be happy again and your friends shall come back to you if



they are meant to be.
Hey, don't worry, go and make new friends, if your friends have gone and left you they will be back since you guys have been through alot. They will realise soon.
Don't worry their not worth it, they could also be jealous of you.
lose them
thats life
I'm guessing you're under 21ish? This is just part of life. Friends come and go as life takes you through its various adventures and bad times. A few people will hang around all your life - even if life takes you from them for months or even years at a go, with little contact. These are you true friends. People you can really rely on. Even lovers you think you couldn't be without; most will go, never to be seen again. Use the term friend wisely. Whilst we all have 'mates' we actually have very few true friends. Cherish them.
try to find more friends yourself...
I dont think these people were your true friends, just people you thought you knew. Friends are people you havent met yet! im sure you will make lots of real friends.
First, don't think of it as being rejected. People grow and change and for the most part, people aren't trying to hurt others while they are growing and changing. Unless something specific happened to make someone angry, they are probably just reacting to the "fun" of someone new to learn about. Don't take it personally.



It is hard to accept that someone wants to be around you less than they used to, but it probably has nothing to do with you. As you get older, as they get older, as you all do things that bring new people to the mix, the group dynamics will change. Try not to feel hurt by it.



Try turning the situation around by inviting all of them to come together and do something fun (like a picnic in the park or pizza one night). Look up group activities or team building games online and see if you can find something fun that you can all get to know one another.



Remember, it is ok for you to meet knew people too and also ok to talk to your original friends and tell them that you miss them. Chances are these new people aren't trying to hurt anyone, they may just be shy and your original friends are making the effort to bring them into the group, while they are too shy to talk to everyone. Try helping to make them feel welcome as new additions to the group.



I know it hurts, but don't be sad about it--be proactive. Find other new people to bring into the mix too. The more the merrier.
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Hi, i have been in a similar situation as you before, all i can say is try talking to theses people and if they really value you as a friend they would try to include you in more things, and if they don't, they can't truly be your best friends!

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